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DTH-XI-0027

“I came out the other side of a darkness I wasn't sure I'd survive.”

DTH · Pillar IV, Death DTH-XI · Grieve Fully. Then Move.

You were closer to the edge than most people knew, and you're still here. That's not a small thing, it's the largest thing. Grieve the version of you that suffered; he carried something brutal. Then take the life he fought to keep and actually live it. He earned you the chance.

Your Practice

  1. Acknowledge how hard it was. Don't minimize what you survived.
  2. Name one thing that's worth being here for. Hold it close on bad days.
  3. Keep the practice that pulled you out. Don't quit it because you feel better.
  4. Tell someone still in it that the other side exists. You're the proof.

The Architects

“You can not now realize that you will ever feel better. Is not this so? And yet it is a mistake. You are sure to be happy again.”

Abraham Lincoln, Letter to Fanny McCullough, December 23, 1862 (Collected Works, vol. 6)

More under DTH-XI

DTH-XI-0001“I lost someone and I can't function.”DTH-XI-0002“I made peace with someone before it was too late.”DTH-XI-0003“I grieved fully and I'm ready to move forward.”DTH-XI-0004“Someone I love is dying and I don't know what to do.”DTH-XI-0005“I'm angry that someone died. I feel cheated.”DTH-XI-0006“I keep thinking about a loss from years ago that still hurts.”
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