DTH-XI-0001
“I lost someone and I can't function.”
Grief is not a detour from life, it is part of it. Give it its full weight. Don't rush past it, and don't let it become a permanent address. You can honor the loss and still move. Both are required.
Your Practice
Set a timer for 20 minutes. Sit somewhere quiet, let the grief move through you without distraction, no phone, no noise. Cry if you need to. Then, when the timer ends, do one small thing: drink a glass of water, step outside, write one sentence about the person you lost. Not to move on, just to move.
The Architects
“You can not now realize that you will ever feel better. Is not this so? And yet it is a mistake. You are sure to be happy again.”
Abraham Lincoln, Letter to Fanny McCullough, December 23, 1862 (Collected Works, vol. 6)