DTH-XI-0006
“I keep thinking about a loss from years ago that still hurts.”
Old grief that resurfaces is not a sign of failure. It is a sign that the loss was real and the person mattered. Some griefs are not resolved once — they are returned to at different depths as you change. The question is whether returning to it is part of living, or whether it has become a place you live permanently.
Your Practice
Write one honest paragraph about this person or loss: what they meant to you, what you still carry from them, and what in that is worth keeping. Then write one sentence committing to how you will carry that forward — not as grief, but as something they gave you. Name it. Keep it.
The Architects
“Let us see to it that the recollection of those whom we have lost becomes a pleasant memory to us.”
— Seneca, Moral Letters to Lucilius, Letter 63 (On Grief for Lost Friends; Richard M. Gummere translation; Wikisource)