DTH-XI-0015
“I have regrets and I'm not sure what to do with them.”
Regret is grief about choices. It deserves the same treatment: full acknowledgment, and then movement. The purpose of examining a regret is not punishment, it is extraction. What does this regret tell you about what you actually value? That information is still useful. It is not too late to act on it.
Your Practice
Name your single largest regret. Write what it tells you about what you value. Then ask: is there anything I can still do, even partially, to address what this regret points at? If yes, take one step. If no, write one sentence releasing it. Regret used as information is useful. Regret used as punishment is just pain.
The Architects
“Let not the eyes be dry when we have lost a friend, nor let them overflow. We may weep, but we must not wail.”
Seneca, Moral Letters to Lucilius, Letter 63, sec. 1, Gummere translation