DTH-XI-0010
“I lost a parent and the grief is bigger than I expected.”
Losing a parent is among the most significant losses a person experiences. It changes the fundamental structure of your world, the person who was there before you were born is gone. The size of your grief reflects the size of what you had. Give it its full weight. It earned that.
Your Practice
Write about one specific memory of your parent, a moment, a phrase they used, a thing they did that was purely them. Don't summarize them; recall one real scene. Then write one quality of theirs that lives in you. Grief and continuity exist together. That quality is yours now to carry forward.
The Architects
“Don't turn your head. Keep looking at the bandaged place. That's where the light enters you.”
Rumi, Coleman Barks, The Essential Rumi (1995), 'Childhood Friends'; Barks's interpretive version of Masnavi, Book I, 3150-3227, after Nicholson