DTH-XI-0008
“I'm grieving and people keep telling me I should be over it by now.”
There is no correct timeline for grief. Other people's discomfort with your grief is their problem, not yours. Grief has its own pace and it is not something that should be managed on behalf of other people's comfort. You are the only one who knows where you actually are in it.
Your Practice
Write one honest sentence about where you actually are in your grief today — not where others think you should be. Then ask: am I moving, even slowly? If yes, keep going. If no, name one concrete thing you can do this week that represents movement — not leaving the grief behind, but not letting it stop you either. Do that one thing.
The Architects
“Men are disturbed not by the things which happen, but by their opinions about the things.”
— Epictetus, Epictetus, Enchiridion, ch. 5 (Higginson / Long translation)