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CTL-VII-0067

“I did the just thing and I've let go of needing everyone to agree it was right.”

CTL · Pillar III — Control CTL-VII · Own Only What Is Yours.

You acted rightly in a situation that mattered, and not everyone sees it that way. The instinct is to chase their agreement, to win the verdict. Let it go. The action was yours and it was right; the crowd's opinion was never your possession. Owning only what is yours ends at your own conduct.

Your Practice

  1. Confirm the action was just, on the merits, in your own honest judgment.
  2. Stop campaigning for everyone to agree it was right.
  3. Let what others conclude be their business, not yours.
  4. Rest on the rightness of the act, not the applause for it.

The Architects

“Whatever any man shall say about you, do not attend to it: for this is no affair of yours.”

— Epictetus, Enchiridion, ch. LI (George Long translation)

More under CTL-VII

CTL-VII-0001“I'm obsessing over something I can't control.”CTL-VII-0002“My anxiety is through the roof and I can't shut my brain off.”CTL-VII-0003“I stopped worrying about what people think and I feel lighter.”CTL-VII-0004“I let go of something I couldn't control and found peace.”CTL-VII-0005“I finally accepted that not everything is my responsibility.”CTL-VII-0006“Someone I trusted let me down badly.”
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