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CTL-VII-0003

“I stopped worrying about what people think and I feel lighter.”

CTL · Pillar III — Control CTL-VII · Own Only What Is Yours

Other people's opinions of you are not yours to carry. When you stop trying to manage how you appear in other people's minds, you reclaim enormous energy. This lightness is what living within your own bounds feels like.

Your Practice

Write down exactly what you stopped caring about and why it no longer owns you. Keep it. The next time the need for approval tries to creep back, read it. Then act on your own standard anyway.

The Architects

“It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own.”

— Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

More under CTL-VII

CTL-VII-0001“I'm obsessing over something I can't control.”CTL-VII-0002“My anxiety is through the roof and I can't shut my brain off.”CTL-VII-0004“I let go of something I couldn't control and found peace.”CTL-VII-0005“I finally accepted that not everything is my responsibility.”CTL-VII-0006“Someone I trusted let me down badly.”CTL-VII-0007“I've been comparing myself to everyone around me.”
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