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CTL-VII-0005

“I finally accepted that not everything is my responsibility.”

CTL · Pillar III, Control CTL-VII · Own Only What Is Yours

Taking on what isn't yours doesn't help anyone, it depletes you and takes the burden away from where it actually belongs. Owning only what is yours is honest and sustainable.

Your Practice

Write down one thing you've been carrying that belongs to someone else. Name it clearly, then write: "This is not mine to carry." Practice returning it, not with resentment, but with clarity.

The Architects

“First be master over yourself if you would be master over others.”

Baltasar Gracián, The Art of Worldly Wisdom, Maxim 55, "Wait" (Joseph Jacobs translation, 1892)

More under CTL-VII

CTL-VII-0001“I'm obsessing over something I can't control.”CTL-VII-0002“My anxiety is through the roof and I can't shut my brain off.”CTL-VII-0003“I stopped worrying about what people think and I feel lighter.”CTL-VII-0004“I let go of something I couldn't control and found peace.”CTL-VII-0006“Someone I trusted let me down badly.”CTL-VII-0007“I've been comparing myself to everyone around me.”
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