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CTL-VII-0066

“I was angry and I owned the feeling fully without making it anyone else's problem.”

You let yourself be angry — really angry — without performing it at anyone or pretending it away. The feeling was yours to hold; the spilling would have made it theirs to clean up. Owning only what is yours means carrying your own emotion without handing the bill to the nearest person.

Your Practice

  1. Name the anger to yourself, plainly and without shame.
  2. Resist aiming it at whoever is closest and convenient.
  3. Move it through your body — walk, breathe, write — not at a person.
  4. Address the real cause once the heat has passed.

The Architects

“Of things some are in our power, and others are not. In our power are opinion, movement towards a thing, desire, aversion; and in a word, whatever are our own acts.”

Epictetus, Enchiridion, ch. I (George Long translation)