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CTL-VII-0053

“I gave to someone in need and I'm letting it stay completely anonymous.”

CTL · Pillar III — Control CTL-VII · Own Only What Is Yours.

The gift is given and no one knows it was you — and you're going to keep it that way. The hunger to be seen as generous would have made the giving about you. Owning only what is yours means you keep the act and the meaning of it, and you let go of the recognition you don't need.

Your Practice

  1. Confirm to yourself that the gift is fully given, with no strings.
  2. Resist every opening to let the right person 'happen' to find out.
  3. If thanked indirectly, deflect without hinting it was you.
  4. Let the private knowledge of having done right be the whole return.

The Architects

“No longer talk at all about the kind of man that a good man ought to be, but be such.”

— Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, Book X.16 (George Long translation)

More under CTL-VII

CTL-VII-0001“I'm obsessing over something I can't control.”CTL-VII-0002“My anxiety is through the roof and I can't shut my brain off.”CTL-VII-0003“I stopped worrying about what people think and I feel lighter.”CTL-VII-0004“I let go of something I couldn't control and found peace.”CTL-VII-0005“I finally accepted that not everything is my responsibility.”CTL-VII-0006“Someone I trusted let me down badly.”
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