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CTL-VII-0048

“They praised me to my face and I pointed to the people who actually did it.”

CTL · Pillar III, Control CTL-VII · Own Only What Is Yours.

A clean instinct fired: the praise arrived and you redirected it to where it belonged. That is not self-deprecation, it is accuracy. Owning only what is yours means you keep your real contribution and refuse the surplus. People trust a man who keeps honest books on himself.

Your Practice

  1. When praised, name the specific people whose work made it possible.
  2. Keep the part that was genuinely yours, do not erase yourself.
  3. Make the credit specific, not a vague 'great team.'
  4. Notice you can be proud and accurate at the same time.

The Architects

“He who displays himself does not shine; he who asserts his own views is not distinguished.”

Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching, ch. 24 (James Legge translation)

More under CTL-VII

CTL-VII-0001“I'm obsessing over something I can't control.”CTL-VII-0002“My anxiety is through the roof and I can't shut my brain off.”CTL-VII-0003“I stopped worrying about what people think and I feel lighter.”CTL-VII-0004“I let go of something I couldn't control and found peace.”CTL-VII-0005“I finally accepted that not everything is my responsibility.”CTL-VII-0006“Someone I trusted let me down badly.”
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