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CTL-VII-0041

“My siblings are fighting over the inheritance and dragging me into the ugliness.”

CTL · Pillar III — Control CTL-VII · Own Only What Is Yours.

Grief curdled into a fight over things, and they want you in the mud with them. Their greed, their resentment, their tactics - none of that is yours. What is yours is how you conduct yourself in it. You can refuse to become what the conflict is trying to make you.

Your Practice

  1. Decide who you will be in this regardless of how they behave. Write it down.
  2. Name what is theirs - their bitterness - and refuse to carry or match it.
  3. State your position once, fairly, then stop feeding the fight.
  4. Protect the relationships you still want when the estate is long settled.

The Architects

“It is the act of an ill-instructed man to blame others for his own bad condition; it is the act of one who has begun to be instructed, to lay the blame on himself.”

— Epictetus, Enchiridion, ch. V (George Long translation)

More under CTL-VII

CTL-VII-0001“I'm obsessing over something I can't control.”CTL-VII-0002“My anxiety is through the roof and I can't shut my brain off.”CTL-VII-0003“I stopped worrying about what people think and I feel lighter.”CTL-VII-0004“I let go of something I couldn't control and found peace.”CTL-VII-0005“I finally accepted that not everything is my responsibility.”CTL-VII-0006“Someone I trusted let me down badly.”
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