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CTL-VII-0032

“I gave generously and I'm fighting the urge to need credit for it.”

CTL · Pillar III — Control CTL-VII · Own Only What Is Yours.

The gift was real and the impulse to be seen giving it is also real. But a gift that needs an audience is half a transaction. What is yours is the giving. What people think of you for it is not. Give, and let the credit be none of your business.

Your Practice

  1. Name what you gave and the urge to be recognized for it.
  2. Let one act of generosity stay completely unseen this week.
  3. When you catch yourself wanting credit, redirect to why you gave.
  4. Write the difference between generosity and a bid for approval.

The Architects

“Whatever any man shall say about you, do not attend to it: for this is no affair of yours.”

— Epictetus, Enchiridion, ch. LI (George Long translation)

More under CTL-VII

CTL-VII-0001“I'm obsessing over something I can't control.”CTL-VII-0002“My anxiety is through the roof and I can't shut my brain off.”CTL-VII-0003“I stopped worrying about what people think and I feel lighter.”CTL-VII-0004“I let go of something I couldn't control and found peace.”CTL-VII-0005“I finally accepted that not everything is my responsibility.”CTL-VII-0006“Someone I trusted let me down badly.”
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