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CTL-VII-0031

“I have a friend who's shown up for me for decades and I want to honor that.”

CTL · Pillar III, Control CTL-VII · Own Only What Is Yours.

A friendship that lasts decades is not luck - it is two people who kept choosing it. The gratitude you feel is real and worth acting on. What is yours here is your half of it: the showing up, the honesty, the loyalty returned. Tend your half and tell him it mattered.

Your Practice

  1. Name the times he showed up. Be specific - vague gratitude fades.
  2. Tell him directly what his loyalty has meant. Don't wait for an occasion.
  3. Name your half of the friendship and recommit to carrying it.
  4. Do one concrete thing this month to show up for him.

The Architects

“We must reserve a back shop, wholly our own and entirely free, wherein to establish our true liberty and principal retreat and solitude.”

Michel de Montaigne, Essays, Book I, ch. 39 'Of Solitude' (ch. XXXVIII in Cotton's numbering); wording blends the Cotton and Florio/Frame renderings

More under CTL-VII

CTL-VII-0001“I'm obsessing over something I can't control.”CTL-VII-0002“My anxiety is through the roof and I can't shut my brain off.”CTL-VII-0003“I stopped worrying about what people think and I feel lighter.”CTL-VII-0004“I let go of something I couldn't control and found peace.”CTL-VII-0005“I finally accepted that not everything is my responsibility.”CTL-VII-0006“Someone I trusted let me down badly.”
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