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CTL-VII-0026

“My child was just born and I'd give anything to control the whole world for her.”

CTL · Pillar III — Control CTL-VII · Own Only What Is Yours.

The love is total and the urge to shield her from everything is real. But you will drive yourself mad guarding what was never yours to govern. What is yours is the home you build, the steadiness you carry, the example you set. Pour into that. The rest you hold with open hands.

Your Practice

  1. Write the few things that are truly in your power as her parent: your patience, your presence, your habits.
  2. Name one fear about her future that is not yours to control. Set it down on purpose.
  3. Build one of the things you can control this week, small and concrete.
  4. When dread for her rises, return to the list of what is yours.

More under CTL-VII

CTL-VII-0001“I'm obsessing over something I can't control.”CTL-VII-0002“My anxiety is through the roof and I can't shut my brain off.”CTL-VII-0003“I stopped worrying about what people think and I feel lighter.”CTL-VII-0004“I let go of something I couldn't control and found peace.”CTL-VII-0005“I finally accepted that not everything is my responsibility.”CTL-VII-0006“Someone I trusted let me down badly.”
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