APX-VI-0035
“Every time something fails, I can prove it wasn't my fault.”
You're very good at the case for your own innocence — and that skill is exactly the trap. If nothing is ever your fault, then nothing is ever yours to fix, and a man who can't fix anything is helpless by his own argument. The author doesn't ask who's to blame. He asks what was mine in this. That question is uncomfortable precisely because it's the only one that opens a door.
Your Practice
- Take the last failure you've fully blamed on others. Grant that your case might even be partly right.
- Now find the one thread that was yours — a choice, a silence, a risk you didn't manage.
- Say it plainly, no flinching: 'This part was mine.' Ownership is the door, blame is the wall.
- Decide one thing you'd author differently next time, and rehearse it for the situation you're in now.