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APX-VI-0004

“I've been blaming everyone else for where I am in life.”

APX · Pillar II — Apex APX-VI · Reject the Victim. Become the Author.

Blame is accurate sometimes. People do cause harm. But the moment blame becomes your explanation for your present position, you've handed the pen to someone else. Take it back.

Your Practice

Name the person or situation you've been blaming most. Write one sentence: "What I can control in this situation is ___." Do not write what they should have done differently. Only what you can do now. Then do it.

The Architects

“Men are disturbed not by the things which happen, but by the opinions about the things.”

— Epictetus, Enchiridion

More under APX-VI

APX-VI-0001“I keep telling myself I'm a victim of my circumstances.”APX-VI-0002“I stopped making excuses and started making moves.”APX-VI-0003“I took full ownership of my life and everything changed.”APX-VI-0005“I successfully rebuilt a habit I'd lost.”APX-VI-0006“I've been waiting for permission to pursue what I actually want.”APX-VI-0007“I keep catastrophizing every setback into proof that I'll never succeed.”
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