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“It's my wedding day and I keep wanting to manage every detail instead of being here.”
You planned for months and the planner in you won't switch off. But this day is not a project to control - it is a moment to inhabit. The details will land where they land. What is yours is your presence. Set down the clipboard and be inside your own life today.
Your Practice
- Hand the details to someone else for the day, in writing, so your hands are free.
- When the manager in you flares, name it and return to the person beside you.
- Pick three moments to be fully present for. Guard those above all.
- At the end, write one thing you would have missed if you'd kept managing.
The Architects
“I get home, spend a little bit of time with family, have dinner, and then I sort of start a second day of work about 10 p.m. and go to 4 a.m., where I do my thinking and more creative work and research work.”
Demis Hassabis, Fortune's Titans and Disruptors of Industry podcast with Alyson Shontell, reported by Fortune, February 12, 2026