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“My marriage is falling apart and I don't know how to save it.”

You cannot control another person's choices, feelings, or commitment. You can only control your own conduct. Be honest, be present, be principled — and do it regardless of whether it's working yet.

Your Practice

Write down what you can control in this relationship: your tone, your honesty, your patience, your effort. Focus only on those. Show up that way today — not to manage the outcome, but because it's who you said you'd be. Do it whether it's working or not.

The Architects

“How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it.”

Marcus Aurelius, Meditations