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VIR-II-0026

“We made it through the worst year and I kept every vow I made her.”

Anyone can keep a promise in good weather. You kept yours through the year that would have given you every excuse to slip. The marriage did not survive on feeling — feeling came and went. It survived on a word you refused to break. That is what a vow is for: the years when only the word holds.

Your Practice

  1. Tell her you stayed because you'd given your word, and because you chose her again.
  2. Name the moment it was hardest, and that you held. She should know it cost you something.
  3. Don't treat the hard year as behind you forever. Renew the word for the next one.
  4. Mark the anniversary of the worst day as proof, not as a wound.