VIR-I-0028
“I finally told the doctor the whole truth and got real help.”
The half-version you used to give kept you safe from embarrassment and away from a cure. The full truth was uncomfortable for ninety seconds and then it unlocked everything. Honesty with the people trying to help you is not confession, it is the price of admission to actually being helped. Pay it everywhere it matters.
Your Practice
- Name what you held back before, and why. Shame is the usual answer.
- Notice that the help only became possible once the truth was complete.
- Find one other place, money, marriage, work, where you are still giving the half-version.
- Give the full version there next. The pattern, not the one win, is the prize.
The Architects
“Try to have the highest of ethics and to be open and truthful about things, not hiding. If you have to hide something for company reasons, at least explain what you're doing. Don't mislead people.”
Steve Wozniak, Interview with Jessica Livingston, Founders at Work (2007), closing advice-to-hackers answer