“I've started being honest with myself about where I'm actually at.”
Self-honesty is harder than honesty with others, because there's no external accountability. When you stop performing for yourself, when you look at your actual situation with clear eyes, you create the only real foundation for change. This is where everything starts.
Your Practice
Write an honest one-paragraph assessment of where you are right now, in the area of your life you've been most likely to deceive yourself about. No softening, no spin. Just what's true. Keep it private. Then identify one step, taken today, that moves toward the version you want.
The Architects
“Truth is the beginning of every good thing, both to Gods and men; and he who would be blessed and happy, should be from the first a partaker of the truth, that he may live a true man as long as possible, for then he can be trusted.”