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VIR-I-0015

“I'm dealing with a situation where the honest answer could end a relationship.”

A relationship held together by silence or half-truths is not the relationship you think it is. You are carrying the weight of maintaining a fiction. The honest version of this relationship might be harder, or it might be stronger. But either way, it will be real.

Your Practice

Write out what you've been avoiding saying and why. Then write out the worst realistic outcome if you say it. Now write the cost of continuing to not say it, to you, to the relationship, to your own integrity. Compare the two costs honestly. Then decide.

The Architects

“But you know, math is the same. If I gave you that answer last year, it's the same now.”

Katherine Johnson, NASA official biography (science.nasa.gov/people/katherine-johnson), on the permanence of mathematical truth