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“I stopped competing with my own kids and started building them up.”
It's an ugly thing to admit, but some parents build under their children, needing to stay the smarter, stronger, more-accomplished one. You caught it and turned it. Now you're cheering their wins instead of quietly measuring against them. That's the purest build-with there is: wanting them to surpass you, and meaning it.
Your Practice
- Catch the impulse to one-up or correct, and replace it with a question about their thing.
- Celebrate a win of theirs today without attaching your own story to it.
- Tell them plainly you want them to go further than you did. Kids need to hear it.
- Measure your success as a parent by how far past you they get.
The Architects
“The bad guys are out there, and they don't care about alignment — you yourself have to force the LLMs to explore the dark side, and map those to how you'll actually defend if it happens.”
Nik Seetharaman, Interview in TechCrunch, "When generative AI cyberthreats arrive, Wraithwatch will be ready and waiting," November 2, 2023