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CTL-VIII-0063

“I let someone have the last word and felt strong instead of small.”

CTL · Pillar III, Control CTL-VIII · Redirect Immediately.

The reflex to win the exchange, to land the final point, is old and loud. You let it go. Not because you lost, but because you saw the contest wasn't worth your peace. Redirecting immediately away from the need to be right left you standing taller than any last word would have.

Your Practice

  1. Feel the pull to fire back one more time, then don't.
  2. Ask: 'Is being right here worth what it costs me?'
  3. Let silence be your answer and walk away whole.
  4. Notice that not needing the last word is its own kind of win.

The Architects

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”

Viktor Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning, Part II: Logotherapy in a Nutshell (The Meaning of Suffering; Ilse Lasch translation, Beacon Press)

More under CTL-VIII

CTL-VIII-0001“I just got fired.”CTL-VIII-0002“My plan fell apart and I don't know what to do next.”CTL-VIII-0003“I redirected a bad day into a productive one.”CTL-VIII-0004“I keep reacting to things I should let pass.”CTL-VIII-0005“I'm struggling with a habit I keep returning to.”CTL-VIII-0006“I'm proud of how I handled a situation that used to derail me.”
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