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CTL-VIII-0061

“I felt an old grudge flare and I chose, in the moment, to let it die.”

CTL · Pillar III — Control CTL-VIII · Redirect Immediately.

The grudge has lived in you for a long time and it knows how to flare. This time, when it rose, you didn't feed it. You let it pass through and out. Redirecting immediately from resentment to release, in the live moment, is how a grudge finally starves. You starved it today.

Your Practice

  1. When the grudge flares, notice it without rehearsing the offense.
  2. Say to yourself: 'Carrying this costs me more than them.'
  3. Redirect to one present, neutral task to break the loop.
  4. Each time you don't feed it, the grudge gets weaker.

The Architects

“Confine thyself to the present.”

— Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, Book VII.29 (George Long translation)

More under CTL-VIII

CTL-VIII-0001“I just got fired.”CTL-VIII-0002“My plan fell apart and I don't know what to do next.”CTL-VIII-0003“I redirected a bad day into a productive one.”CTL-VIII-0004“I keep reacting to things I should let pass.”CTL-VIII-0005“I'm struggling with a habit I keep returning to.”CTL-VIII-0006“I'm proud of how I handled a situation that used to derail me.”
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