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CTL-VIII-0035

“I keep torturing myself imagining my partner's past relationships.”

CTL · Pillar III — Control CTL-VIII · Redirect Immediately.

Your mind builds vivid scenes from a past you weren't even there for, then makes you suffer them as if they were happening now. None of it is real and none of it is present. The turn is everything: the instant the film starts rolling, cut it and return to the person actually beside you.

Your Practice

  1. When the scene starts, name it: 'This is imagination, not reality, not now.'
  2. Wipe it - redirect your eyes and attention to your partner in the present.
  3. Do not interrogate them to feed the jealousy. The hunger grows when fed.
  4. Write one true thing about the relationship you actually have, now.

More under CTL-VIII

CTL-VIII-0001“I just got fired.”CTL-VIII-0002“My plan fell apart and I don't know what to do next.”CTL-VIII-0003“I redirected a bad day into a productive one.”CTL-VIII-0004“I keep reacting to things I should let pass.”CTL-VIII-0005“I'm struggling with a habit I keep returning to.”CTL-VIII-0006“I'm proud of how I handled a situation that used to derail me.”
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