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CTL-VIII-0030

“I won the competition and I'm choosing not to rub it in.”

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The win is clean and you earned it. There's a pull to make the loser feel it - to let the victory be a verdict on them. Don't. The win is yours; how the other person feels is theirs and not yours to weaponize. Carry the victory like a man, not a scoreboard.

Your Practice

  1. Enjoy the win fully and privately first. You don't owe anyone a performance.
  2. Redirect the urge to gloat into one genuine word of respect for the loser.
  3. Keep your conduct the same as it'd be if you'd lost. Character isn't conditional.
  4. Write what kind of winner you want to be known as.

The Architects

“There is continually a slight irritation when things don't look quite right; and I think that dissatisfaction in present days is a key driving force in good scientists.”

Claude Shannon, Creative Thinking, talk at Bell Laboratories, March 20, 1952

More under CTL-VIII

CTL-VIII-0001“I just got fired.”CTL-VIII-0002“My plan fell apart and I don't know what to do next.”CTL-VIII-0003“I redirected a bad day into a productive one.”CTL-VIII-0004“I keep reacting to things I should let pass.”CTL-VIII-0005“I'm struggling with a habit I keep returning to.”CTL-VIII-0006“I'm proud of how I handled a situation that used to derail me.”
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