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CTL-VIII-0024

“I'm falling for someone new and I keep catching myself before old fears take over.”

CTL · Pillar III, Control CTL-VIII · Redirect Immediately.

The last one left scars, and the mind wants to drag them into this. But you are learning the turn: the moment the old fear flares, you redirect to what is actually in front of you. This person is not the last one. Meeting them clean is the gift.

Your Practice

  1. When an old fear surfaces, name it: 'That belongs to the past, not to them.'
  2. Redirect your attention to one real thing this person has actually shown you.
  3. Say one true, present thing to them instead of defending against a ghost.
  4. At day's end, note where you chose the present over the replay.

The Architects

“I didn't see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again.”

Steve Jobs, Stanford University Commencement Address, June 12, 2005

More under CTL-VIII

CTL-VIII-0001“I just got fired.”CTL-VIII-0002“My plan fell apart and I don't know what to do next.”CTL-VIII-0003“I redirected a bad day into a productive one.”CTL-VIII-0004“I keep reacting to things I should let pass.”CTL-VIII-0005“I'm struggling with a habit I keep returning to.”CTL-VIII-0006“I'm proud of how I handled a situation that used to derail me.”
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