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APX-V-0023

“I told a friend a hard truth and it pulled them back from a cliff.”

APX · Pillar II, Apex APX-V · Protect Those Beneath You.

The easy thing was to stay quiet and stay liked. You chose to risk the friendship to protect the friend. That is what strength is for, not to dominate, but to teach and to bear with the people in your circle even when it costs you their comfort or yours. They may not thank you for a while. The protection was real anyway.

Your Practice

  1. Notice you risked the relationship for the person. That order is the whole tenet.
  2. Stay present after the hard truth, don't deliver it and vanish. Bearing with them is part of it.
  3. Don't demand gratitude. The point was their safety, not your applause.
  4. Hold the same standard for yourself: invite the people who'd tell you the hard thing close.

The Architects

“The salvation of man is through love and in love.”

Viktor Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning, Part I: Experiences in a Concentration Camp (Ilse Lasch translation, Beacon Press)

More under APX-V

APX-V-0001“Someone weaker than me is getting crushed and I'm just watching.”APX-V-0002“I'm finally using my strength to lift others up.”APX-V-0003“I'm mentoring someone and watching them grow.”APX-V-0004“I realized I've been protecting the wrong things.”APX-V-0005“I'm stepping into a leadership role for the first time.”APX-V-0006“A child or young person in my life is struggling and needs guidance.”
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