APX-IV-0075
“I worried being too much was why I'm alone, so I'm done shrinking to fit.”
You suspected your size was the problem, so you trimmed yourself to be palatable — and got lonelier, surrounded by people who only knew the small version. The fix was never less of you. It was finding rooms that can hold all of you. Stay full. The right people are looking for exactly that.
Your Practice
- List the parts of you you've been trimming to fit in. Stop trimming one.
- Show up at full size in one room this week. Watch who leans in.
- Stop reading discomfort as proof you're too much. It's often just fit.
- Seek rooms built for your scale instead of shrinking into small ones.
The Architects
“I am more than ever now the bride of science.”
— Ada Lovelace, Letter to Andrew Crosse (Englische Studien, Vol. 19, 1894, p. 157)