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APX-IV-0011

“I feel guilty for outgrowing the people around me.”

Growth is not betrayal. You did not leave people behind by improving — you moved. You can love someone and still move. Guilt that keeps you small serves neither you nor them.

Your Practice

Write down the names of the people you feel you've outgrown. For each, ask: am I actually abandoning them, or am I just different now? Identify one way you can maintain a real connection without shrinking yourself. Do that. Keep moving.

The Architects

“The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.”

Marcus Aurelius, Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, Book III (Jeremy Collier 1701 translation — a loose paraphrase)